You may have noticed it’s been quieter than usual here on Trendy Techie. Normally I keep up my blog like it’s a second job, but lately life is getting in the way. Some of you know what’s going on in my life right now, and some of you only see what appears here on the site, but without going into detail I’ll say my family has been hit hard with a pretty big blow, and as a result a good portion of my mental and emotional energy has gone to, well, dealing with it.
In the past year it’s become increasingly apparent to me that a great deal of “dealing with it” is simply staying alive and being present. When you see stuff like this in the movies the whole plotline changes and bends around the catastrophic event, to the point where every decision and every spoken word holds inflections of what happened. But real life is not like the movies, because in the real world everything else keeps moving when your life comes to a standstill.
I am fortunate to work in an environment that has provided me with endless support and patience, and for that I am so grateful. They allow me to work on my own time, provide me with love and encouragement, and have rallied around me in times when my friends haven’t or couldn’t. Being part of a team with such good heart and positive energy has given me strength to deal with it when nothing else has.
The other day one of my teammates said, “time heals all things, and in the end when you look back you’ll see the only thing that changed was time.” She wasn’t talking about me, but her words have stuck with me. I hate what they mean, and I hate how true they are, but they’re right: when the situation is out of your hands, the only thing you can do is wait for time to pass and for things to sort themselves out around you. It’s awful, but there’s no way to get to that light at the end of the tunnel without going through the darkness. It may feel scary and hopeless and painful, but the only way out is to wait for milestones to come and go, and to deal with it.